Why do we often fail to get what we so badly want?

My brother was playing a game and wanted to improve his record time. He wanted the platinum badge but could only achieve gold. He tried (hard) a few times but failed hitting platinum. Then he left and came back after a few hours. First go and he hit platinum.

The Q is if he was able to do it, then why did he not accomplish his goal when “he was trying so hard to get it”?

And then the 2nd Q is, why was he able to do it so easily on the second run?

The answer lies in the Problem itself. He was “trying hard” to get it. when he left, disengaged and came back relaxed, he was NOT trying hard. He just played it and did it. So it was in him, but when we try hard, we somehow, block our Peak Performance. Likewise in trading, often, WE get in OUR way.

We ought to let go of our self and stop getting in our way. The state of flow cannot be achieved by trying hard swimming against the flow. We have to let go and let the current take us nicely in the direction of the flow(trend) thats the definition of “Want What the Market Wants”.